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c hristian wrote:i have not once hit my child, and he is the most well-behaved child i know. My wife and I, both being the products of physical punishment when we were young, remained absolute in never hitting. It's about respect and closeness.
I know what you are saying here, but there are many different ways to go about remedying the situation, the person doling out discipline can remain flexible and communicative. The British boarding schools , believe it or not, aren't always an oasis of enlightened thinking. i bet you know that already.
and that one doesapproaching the forum with trepidation after having made a potentially controversial post
indicates that one is perhaps out of one's depth. I really do not mean to be unkind here, just realistic. There are tools here that allow one to amend or delete one's remarks if one has second thoughts. And I don't mean to pick on the person who made that comment. I'm only using it for illustration.not want to go through the stress of worrying about what the reaction might be
And how often do I agree with Howard in such detail? Wonders will never cease. An emoticon or something could follow this last sentence to indicate a wryly joking remark not a deathly serious insult to Howard's being. But I don't like emoticons or even those things you can do with punctuation marks (because I'm no good at them).To briefly get specific - I'm sure Nikki's 'Sun reader' comment was just an unfortunate throwaway remark which just happened to hit its target with more force than she expected. Des didn't have to resort to such crude bluntness for his response, but I don't imagine he anticipated that his careless words would join a catalogue of verbal abuse that poor Nikki has had to put up with all her life. Result; red faces all round, and a very, very tricky collision to back out of or find the words to mend.
if you don't like it switch off, or start another thread.
Con Murphy wrote:c hristian wrote:The British boarding schools , believe it or not, aren't always an oasis of enlightened thinking. i bet you know that already.
As for British boarding schools, I only know about as much as you do about them, ie what I've read or heard second-hand (some good, some bad).
Nigel said that the use of the offending epithet was "unforgivable." I suspect he meant "inexcusable," as in "there's no way that word should have been used," not "no, I'll never talk to you again."
nigel w wrote:Blessings on you : you're one in a million.
Jonathan E. wrote:They'll scar you for life â€” if you let them. Horrible, vile institutions designed to suck the humanity out of one.
it is very difficult for me to accept the finality of their decisions.
approaching the forum with trepidation after having made a potentially controversial post ...(and) worrying about what the reaction might be
...the people who have gone away...You can see some of them have still been reading as their names come up at the top of the board
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