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I need some friends.

PostPosted: Sun Apr 28, 2013 6:41 pm
by MurkeyChris
Okay, I'm a sad cat looking to make new friends! Most of my friends aren't into the same kind of music as me, and I'm a bit fed up of hours of ringing round begging friends to humour me for the evening. It'd be nice to meet some more people around my age who actually like folk and world music gigs. So this is my 'lonely hearts' ad!

I'm 30 and enjoy making the most of living in London. Despite feeling like I know half of the population of London, I still find it really difficult to find people to come to folk and world music gigs with me! As I'm missing 'Spider' John Koerner tonight due to being Billy-no-mates and having no one to go with, I thought it was time to do something about it. I'm keen to meet some people on the younger side who might be interested in coming to gigs with me. To give an indication of what I'm into, I'm keen on some upcoming gigs by Quercus (June Tabor et al), Moussu T e lei jovent, Reem Kelani, Ray Cooper, Marquis Toliver, Sam Amidon, Lisa Knapp, the Handsome Family and Phillip Henry & Hannah Martin. Beyond that, I'm generally into music, culture and clubbing (although it seems like ages since I have been to a club!), supporting environmental causes and gay rights (I have a partner, Owen, who gets dragged to lots of gigs but can't do them all!), and writing (I'm a contributor to the magazine). Here's my FB page:

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PostPosted: Sun Apr 28, 2013 7:40 pm
by Adam Blake
Hi Chris. I'm 52 and like all sorts of weird music that most people don't like. As Captain Beefheart once put it so perfectly: "opaque melodies that would bug most people".

All I can say is that many of the best gigs I ever saw I went on my own because I couldn't find anyone to go with me and I got to like it. It's like going to the cinema on your own. You don't have to listen to anybody else's thoughts on it. I used to know a bloke who would literally run out of the cinema after a film in order to avoid having to discuss what he had just seen with anybody. Think about it: you have just seen something utterly fantastic, life changing, magnificent in every way - and the person you're with says, "that was alright. Shall we get a kebab?" Conversely, you have just seen the worst band of all time, you are furious with yourself for ever agreeing to go, you KNEW it was going to be crap, and you were right, you deeply resent the money you've just spent. The person you're with says: "Wow! That was AMAZING! Can you lend me a tenner? I want to buy the CD."

My point? Going to a gig on your own doesn't mean you're Johnny No-Mates (or even Billy No-Mates...)

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PostPosted: Sun Apr 28, 2013 11:13 pm
by AndyM
Chris, being 30 and looking to connect with people on this forum around your age might be tricky - but there are several old farts who might take you up on your request!!

(54, if you're asking!)

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 29, 2013 5:27 pm
by Ronald
I totally agree with Adam, just go on your own, I take it the main reason for going is to enjoy a movie or a concert, not somebody's company although that can be enjoyable to.

As I am into African music I could not always find someone to accompany me but that never bothered me. Years ago I travelled alone to a Zaiko Langa Langa concert in Brussels, I was enjoying the music alone at a table when their Belgian manager spotted me and he invited me over to where he was sitting with his friends, I had a great night talking to people I had never met before. Also around the same time I took a trip to London on my own and went to the African centre to watch some band. I got talking to a Canadian guy who was in London to study and apart from enjoying the music we bought each other beers and had a great time.

What I want to say is that there probably will be like minded persons at the concerts you prefer and who knows who you will meet.

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PostPosted: Wed May 01, 2013 1:15 pm
by Ted
You may just have to get used to it.
Dragging friends, lovers, people you've just met to gigs is a risky business, for all the reasons outlined above.

That said, a shared, stunned silence on the way home after a great performance is one of the nicest feelings I know. Almost as much fun is ripping apart an appalling performance. Sorry. This really isn't helping is it?

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PostPosted: Thu May 02, 2013 7:30 am
by Ronald
No sign of Chris anymore, perhaps he found someone but without telling us......

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PostPosted: Sat May 25, 2013 4:38 pm
by MurkeyChris
Hello all, thanks for the replies and sorry I didn't come back earlier! I'm coming round to the whole going on my own thing!